Tag: "miscarriage"

Miscarriage is the Loss of a ‘Real’ Child and Requires Compassion
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Miscarriage is the Loss of a ‘Real’ Child and Requires Compassion

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The wound comes from well-meaning people. “Well, it wasn’t that far along.” “You can always have another child.” “Lots of people go through this.” Miscarriage is a tragedy that so many people misunderstand. They are not quite sure how to console a friend or relative who has suffered this loss. While there are no magic […]

Snow Angel
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Snow Angel

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It always makes me laugh to think of my fellow Southerners panicking at this time of year when the forecast is for snow. It is very typical for us to get a small dusting (or perhaps even more than a dusting!) right about now. But it seems that everyone forgets that tidbit of information and […]

Five Types of Guilt After Pregnancy Loss
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Five Types of Guilt After Pregnancy Loss

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You can never anticipate the feelings you will go through following a pregnancy loss. Nothing in life prepares you for it and no one ever thinks it will happen to them. Of all the emotions I went through after each of my three losses, the one that kept surprising me over and over again was […]

By a Mother
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By a Mother

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  “O most Sacred Heart of Jesus, fountain of every blessing, I adore you, I love you….”  My baby’s heart stopped beating and I don’t know when.  All I know is that on Friday it was fluttering and six days later it was still.  One moment:  Whoosh!  Whoosh!  Whoosh!  Then:  Beeeeeeeeeeeeeeep…….. My mother’s heart heard […]

Open to…Miscarriage?
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Open to…Miscarriage?

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During Advent my thoughts always turn to ultimate things — waiting, longing, begging, pining for answers to ultimate questions, to redemption — and I always think about pregnancy. Like many women, I do not even know how many children I have that did not live to birth because I used contraception for many years before […]

What It Feels Like To Wonder About Miscarriage
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What It Feels Like To Wonder About Miscarriage

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This is to share the intense feelings of a mother wondering if a frail little life in the womb will survive or not. Many, many women know this feeling and it’s not easy to give it words, a mixture of hope and faith, heartbreak and yearning, and no one – no one – but the mother knows exactly what […]

The 50/200 Paradox: Loving Children Who Die Before Birth
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The 50/200 Paradox: Loving Children Who Die Before Birth

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In the Fall of 2009 we unfortunately found out at 18 weeks that one of our twins did not survive. I had a case of H1N1 a few weeks prior, and it affected one of the babies. Thankfully our remaining child was growing well and was not at any increased risk. We named the son […]

Book Review: <i>After Miscarriage</i>
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Book Review: After Miscarriage

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Baby loss through miscarriage is one of the last taboo subjects in our society. Because in most cases, it is largely a hidden loss, the grief associated with it is all too often dismissed easily by people who just don’t understand. Karen Edmisten and those who contributed to After Miscarriage: A Catholic Woman’s Companion to […]

In the Arms of Jesus
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In the Arms of Jesus

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I celebrated my birthday recently. My biggest wish was to celebrate with my five sons ages 13-24. A few of them are no longer living at home so I was thrilled that they were all able to be with me. Never far from my thoughts, however, were those seven precious babies I never got to […]

Our Second Baby Needs a Name
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Our Second Baby Needs a Name

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At adoration last week, I prayed a rosary for a dear friend who recently lost a baby eight weeks into her pregnancy. My heart breaks for her. As I prayed in the quiet chapel, my heart became even heavier thinking about the loss of our own pregnancy at 13 weeks, around this time in 2006. […]

The Gift
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The Gift

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I hadn’t felt normal for several days, so I decided to skulk into Wal Mart, snatch the first pregnancy test within reach off the shelf, and slide it under my purse, which was strategically awaiting its purpose, as a shield, within my cart.  I casually threw a tube of toothpaste into my cart while strolling […]

Miscarriage
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Miscarriage

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The wound comes from well-meaning people. “Well, it wasn’t that far along.” “You can always have another child.” “Lots of people go through this.” Miscarriage is a tragedy that so many people misunderstand. They are not quite sure how to console a friend or relative who has suffered this loss. While there are no magic […]